On July 6th, Paul (my boyfriend), and I celebrated our 7 year anniversary. SEVEN years. Sometimes it feels like it was just yesterday, sometimes it feels like a whole lifetime has gone by since then. SO many life events have happened since that day we met. I would not want anyone else by my side.
Ever since about college graduation (Was that really 3 years ago now? Yes, Maggie, it was. You’re getting old.), the hot topic has been an engagement. I know, I know, that becomes one of the hot topic questions asked of any recent college grad. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been in a relationship for years, one day, just met someone an hour ago, or are so far away from a relationship it’s not even funny ; the question probably comes up at least once shortly after graduation day.
For us though, the question is most often revolved around the fact that we have been dating for so long. It is to the point where if we had a dime for every time someone questioned either of us about an engagement; we could just about pay for our wedding, our first house, retirement, a vacation home, and supporting 6 kids throughout their whole life (props to you if you could raise 6 kids). Totally an exaggeration of course, but you get my point. I know most mean well and are just curious, I totally do. Yet, there seems to be some kind of due date for a marriage proposal. After so much dating time, a proposal automatically must come with it. Our world is full of deadlines and timelines. Relationships and marriage proposals should not have one.
There also shouldn’t be an expiration date on a relationship simply because a marriage proposal has not happened yet. Yes, people have asked if I am afraid that my boyfriend is not willing to commit if he has not popped the question yet. Or been told that I better move on because 7 years is just too long to wait for an engagement. So is 7 years of dating and continued support is not commitment? Also, what kind of relationship partner would I be if I jumped ship just because I don’t have a ring on my finger?
I am not in a hurry for a proposal and I would never rush him for one. The proposal will come when he is ready. When we are both ready. We have talked about marriage, more times than I can count. We both know that it is in the cards. That hand just hasn’t been dealt yet. Every relationship is different, we all know this. Every proposal time-line is different, too. And that is okay, my friends.